Challenging Common Misconceptions About Ethical Non-Monogamy: Separating Fact from Fiction in Non-Traditional Relationships.

I’ve been in a few ethical non-monogamous relationships over the course of about nine years, and I've noticed that there are a lot of misconceptions floating around about this lovestyle, particularly with young adults, but many people assume (old-heads alike) that polyamory is just a way for people to cheat or avoid commitment and fail to realize the monogamy doesn’t prevent any of that either. 

Myth: Non-monogamy is just an excuse to sleep around without consequences.

Fact: Ethical non-monogamy is all about honesty, trust, and communication. It's not about sleeping around or hooking up with as many people as possible. In fact, non-monogamous relationships often involve just as much commitment and emotional intimacy as monogamous relationships, if not more. It's about forming meaningful connections with people who share your values and desires.

Myth: Non-monogamy is inherently unstable and leads to jealousy and drama.

Fact: While it's true that finding meaningful relationships can be challenging at times, it's no more inherently unstable than monogamy. Many of us have found that non-monogamy actually strengthens our relationships by encouraging open communication and trust. Jealousy and drama does happen, but these are issues that can arise in any type of relationship, monogamous or not. The key is to work through these issues together with honesty, empathy and emotional intelligence.

Myth: Non-monogamy is just for people who can't commit.

Fact: Non-monogamy requires just as much commitment as monogamy, if not more. It takes a lot of work to build and maintain multiple relationships, and it requires a great deal of emotional maturity, communication, and time management skills. Just because someone is non-monogamous doesn't mean they're not committed to their partners or their relationships.

Myth: Non-monogamy is not compatible with children or family life.

Fact: Many non-monogamous people have children and lead happy, fulfilling family lives. People want to believe that you're always out partying, hooking up with new partners or constantly on the hunt for new ones as if you have no other priorities. It's possible to have multiple romantic relationships and still prioritize your family and children. Some of us were the kids at one time. With any type of relationship, it's all about finding a balance that works for everyone involved.

Myth: Non-monogamous relationships lack emotional depth and are only about sex.

Fact: Polyamorous relationships can be just as emotionally fulfilling as monogamous relationships, and often involve deep connections and meaningful commitments. While sex is certainly a part of many romantic relationships, it's not the only focus. People can form strong emotional bonds with multiple partners, and often prioritize communication, trust, respect, and can offer a level of intimacy and connection that may not be possible in a monogamous relationship, and it's a valid choice for those who are drawn to this way of loving.

-Dave